Aug 1, 2019
The stories we tell ourselves can either positively impact our goals or be very detrimental to our well-being. We all tell ourselves stories to help explain things that happen in our lives. But we tend to wrap our limiting beliefs up in those stories. The truth is you can create negative stories or positive ones based on your perspective or your limiting beliefs. The stories we create are often based on our past experiences. These stories are so powerful that they can even impact our physiology. This is a great episode to listen to after episode 38 on limiting beliefs. After you listen to that one, give this one a go, to discover how your limiting beliefs are affecting the stories you tell yourself.
Our limiting beliefs are wrapped up in the stories we tell ourselves. And before you can move forward and change your stories, you need to identify your limiting beliefs. Then analyze how those limiting beliefs are impacting your stories. Instead of changing your story right away think about why you are telling yourself this story. The things you focus your energy on can become a problem if you let them. This is why we need to shut the light out on the negative stories so that we can give fuel to more positive stories.
The stories we tell ourselves can be quite deceiving and it can be hard to discern whether something is fact or just a story. Try to detach yourself from the situation to find out. Details are facts. For example, you lost 11 lbs and your friend lost 30. That’s a fact. You weren’t focused enough and she has an easier life. That’s a story. Practice detachment and learn to recognize the facts and separate them from the story. Use the facts to move forward. You can reframe that story to celebrate your accomplishments to make it easier to visualize the future.
The average person spends hours each day creating stories which lead them into a suffering state. Your negative stories can lead you to feeling disempowered, unmotivated and generally stuck in your limiting beliefs. We all waste time, energy, and emotion by spinning negative stories. Your negative stories could be a way for you to process emotions. Think about how you could better spend your time. Do you think you spin stories based on your emotional experiences?
Now that you know how to identify your stories and the way your limiting beliefs play a role it’s time to take action. The first thing you can do to change the stories you tell is to identify them as stories, not facts. Keep listening to podcasts and books to help you with your limiting beliefs. You can also talk to friends or a mentor to help you work these stories out. If you don’t have a friend or mentor to talk to (or even if you do) try reflection and journaling. When you write down these stories be sure to tear them up or burn them. This act of symbolism will help you move forward beyond your limiting beliefs. What will you do today to change your stories?